I am a Certified Sex Therapist who specializes in working with LGBTQIA+ individuals, couples, and polycules navigating the complexities of sex, intimacy, identity, and connection. My practice is grounded in a trauma-informed, sex-positive, and anti-oppressive framework that affirms the full spectrum of sexual expression and relationship diversity. Whether you're exploring desire, healing from trauma, redefining intimacy, or embracing new aspects of your erotic life, I offer a compassionate, collaborative space where your authentic self is welcome.

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I support clients in addressing a wide range of sexual and relational concerns, including:

• Low sexual desire, lack of interest, or mismatched libido

• Sexual incompatibility and desire discrepancies

• Rebuilding sexual connection after betrayal, infidelity, or ruptures

• Enhancing pleasure and deepening erotic intimacy

• Exploring polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of consensual non-monogamy

• Integrating kink, BDSM, and erotic power dynamics into fulfilling and ethical play

• Navigating LGBTQIA+ identities, including coming out, internalized shame, and sexual identity development

• Gender-affirming sex therapy for trans, non-binary, and gender-expansive clients

• Healing from religious sexual shame, sexual trauma, or cultural disconnection from pleasure

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I work with people who are questioning, transitioning, experimenting, reimagining, or reclaiming their relationship to sex and intimacy. I approach therapy from a place of curiosity and care—not pathologizing sexuality or kink, but supporting clients in developing insight, self-trust, and joy in their erotic lives. I have extensive experience working within queer, trans, kinky, and polyamorous communities, and understand the specific dynamics, challenges, and strengths that come with living outside of mainstream relational and sexual norms.

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My training includes over 150 hours of specialized sex therapy education and certification in Urban Tantra, a somatic and breathwork-based practice that supports healing, embodiment, and erotic vitality. I am also trained in Attachment-Focused EMDR (AF-EMDR), a trauma therapy that helps resolve early relational wounds and the lingering effects of sexual trauma, shame, or disconnection. This modality supports clients in cultivating secure emotional and sexual intimacy—with themselves and others.

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In Fall 2025, I will begin training in Somatic Experiencing (SE), a body-based trauma modality that helps regulate the nervous system and release trauma stored in the body. SE is especially supportive for clients whose erotic experiences have been shaped by fight/flight/freeze responses, boundary violations, or embodied trauma.

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My work is deeply informed by ongoing anti-oppression practice and lived experience. I’ve traveled to over 40 countries and across the U.S., engaged in extensive anti-racism and social justice training, and remain committed to challenging systems of oppression that affect how we relate to our bodies, identities, and desires. I’ve also taught at City College of San Francisco, NYU Silver School of Social Work, and the Silberman School of Social Work, and published articles focused on LGBTQIA+ health equity.

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Above all, I believe that sex and pleasure are powerful sites of healing and liberation. I’m honored to support people in moving through shame, reclaiming agency, and creating relationships—monogamous, polyamorous, kinky, queer, or otherwise—that are rooted in authenticity, mutual respect, and joy.

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If you think I could be of help to you at this time, please email me at erin@expressyourselftherapynyc.com to set up a consultation.